First, go here. Once there, read this, followed by this. Save them to your bookmarks (or something similar), as you are going to be reviewing and making reference to the subject matter repeatedly. Or not, just trying to make the process a bit less awkward.
On a purely personal note, I despair of ever developing the talent to write so well as this.
Take the time to make the effort to grasp the strategic principles that are variously at work during the process Bill Whittle describes. Use the OODA looping process to refine your focus on a specific application and then to expand your view to include some other aspect of the process. Once again, refine your focus until you have a thorough understanding and then repeat the process again with some other part, and then again and yet again, until you've developed a sufficiently agile grasp of the technique to make practical use of it's principles.
Then, apply the OODA tactic to your own life, with the intention of discovering a better understanding of the influences which control your decision-making and activities. Pick a general area to examine, then begin the refinement of your focus through repetition of the looping process.
At some point you will discover that you have picked the one aspect of your life that you are best positioned at that moment to develop a more positive control over. Then begin the OODA process for making that transition.
Just like I don't study strategy because I like war, mastering Col. Boyd's tactic(s) doesn't require a military calling in life. In fact, I would suggest that the more non-military your life is, the more effective you will find this process to be for making controlled, positive changes in your personal circumstances.
My personal thanks to Bill Whittle for presenting me with an insight as to how to decide when to begin.